Why "just accept me as I am" does not work: Generally, even outside of physiognomy, there's nothing less attractive than a person who has clearly lost their mind - or even just a small part of it. This could be due to some sort of disillusionment or obsessive quirkiness, or debilitating trauma, or some sort of self-work that the person in question might be avoiding. Regardless of what it is, people instinctively notice this. It's one of the first things they'll notice, truth be told. On the very first gaze. For example, if a person is strangely unhygienic, it's easy to assume that they're "not all there". Even just the reality of being around them becomes heavy and bothersome. They give off a kind of energy where you think to yourself: "If they're willing to disregard themselves, then why wouldn't they disregard me and my safety too?" When a person becomes unpredictable, no matter how much love and care you might feel for them, they put you on edge constantly. If you've lived with someone with mental health issues, you'll know exactly what I mean. They activate a primal need for self-preservation in you and tend to suck out all of your good energy, forcing you to be hyper-aware when in their presence at all times. This is not a healthy state to be in, neither for body or mind. A person you don't feel safe sleeping around is a very good example of how problematic this sort of attitude is. That's why people look for trustworthiness, reliability, continuity in the people they risk to trust. Insanity and emotional disregulation or any sort of behavioural or anger issues, even just that 0.01% of someone going off the rails, is enough to basically disallow people from fully accepting you into their trust. And that's important, man. This is why normalcy and conformity and even uniformity should be followed to a certain extent, not because of some law or regulation, but due to the simple fact that making others feel unsafe in your presence will leave you with very few real friends. A certain level of conformism must be achieved not through forcible means, but through the common understanding that humans should strive towards making one another feel safe in each other's presence. Safety is very close to love. Facilitating a feeling of protectiveness, companionship and fostering a sense of unity is how we show love and care for the other. You might think you're edgy, or frightening, or different in some artificial way - but what you're truly being is unsafe. We all are uniquely different as is, we all have different mannerisms and expressions, but there's a wide gap between expressing oneself in an authentic way and diminishing the situation wherever you go through your incompatibility. And one becomes incompatible with their surroundings - any surroundings - when they are too obnoxious to understand exactly what parts of them, or which behaviours, push people away from them. Be it excessive swearing, lack of hygiene, being strangely loud or controlling, yelling out random crap all the time, being easy to anger, constantly disappointed, etc. So many people don't understand this, they feel like their expression matters more than the safety of others, and that others should accept them as they are. But my question to these types is always the same: What if what you are is actually dangerous, should we just accept that too? ![[Pasted image 20260414223014.png]]