Case Study: The "we should totally be best friends!" guy. This is one of many types. "Hey, you're awesome, let's be friends!" ![[20260112_151024.jpg]] Proceeds to gaslight her and chip away at her confidence by never acknowledging her as a woman, displays overly dramatic, emotional reactions at other women in his life - goes to her for advice. Tags her along until she's fully invested. Invested emotionally, invested time-wise, invested on the level of adventure (the most dopamine-inducing layer for females) - only to then give confusing or questionable hints (usually in the form of jokes) about some hidden romantic desire or unreleased tension between them. Once she's ripened up for the move and hopelessly enamoured by his "emotional availability" to her, he becomes the guy no one wants and sees the potential of - except for her. If only he could somehow see that she cares about him deeper than any other girl. Plot twist: he does. He does and more - he cherishes it, the perfect balancing point between being an object of worship and "almost attainment" for a woman who is now pursued by other men, yet the only man she sees as an option is him - while other men are cast away in an attempt to "get her out". By doing this, he vicariously dominates and drowns out other men who are emotionally attached to her (because of her obsession with him) - and dominating several women's energy (just like her) who are endlessly attached to him, readily available & always down to "make a mistake". He will engage in this energy vampirism until she can no longer contain her lust and desire for him, which will usually boil down to a moment of surrender - his ultimate entertainment, where the woman humbles herself into the masculine role of initiating direct romantic advance. He feeds on this, and he will play it like a master - his "unexpected surprise" role, as if her advances came out of the blue - and that he never even thought that she'd felt the way she did. He will then become disinterested and cold, he has lost his source of vampire energy. She will enter a state of emotional depletion, burnout and shock - she's now ruined her existing "friendship" with him, she loves and cares for him so much - yet she's screwed up so bad that now he is emotionally unavailable, distant, cold, awkward - because of her advances. This will send her down a spiral of frenzied obsession, as her attachment by now is too strong for her to release him from her life, she cannot eject him - she has invested too much in their relationship. This will cause her to aggressively pursue him, sometimes even stalking. What once was a source of endless emotional energy and vampiric empathy has now become "just one of those girls who are obsessed with me" - and will be used as worm-bait for the next victim, who will receive false external validation from the fact that he's such a pursued man. "If so many girls pursue him and have been in love with him, he must be so special! And I must be so lucky to get such a catch!" She will face the same fate, where he will have intercourse with her immediately - and then tag her along as one of his next "best friends". He's free. He's open-minded. He doesn't stay in the same place too long. He's never negative. He's always calm and smooth and soft-spoken. He will always hear you out and nod at everything you say, and then quickly proceed to make it all about himself. She rarely recovers from this - and her self-esteem will suffer greatly, and she will put the next guy through a meatgrinder because he'll never be able to activate the same emotional intensity in her. He is now her drug - and she will try to recreate him in every man she meets. On an energetic level, this is how he creates his "vampire babies" - failed amalgamations of his own wretched, self-absorbed soul. Each failed relationship, every man that is "not enough" for her - these are all defaced, indirect altars of worship created in tribute to his name.