Most women will swear by their wish to have a deep spiritual connection with a man - but what they truly want is an object to desire. This object - usually a male outside of their sphere of influence - becomes their idealistic fixation, whom they will fantasize and obsess about. ![[IMG_3755.jpeg]] This concept is very alien for men - especially young men - to grasp. Most women do not fall in love with anything you do - not really. Yet they will fall in love with delusions they've built around your imaginary persona - this is why "mysterious and secretive" men are a thing. Generally, women with this type of behavior tend to be very egocentric, emotionally insecure and secretive about their true agendas. I always tell my patients - if the woman you're interested in has a thing for hot-and-steamy romance novels - stay far, far away. They will cheat. As soon as their object of affection (which is, in truth, delusion) becomes known to them - there will always come another - more mysterious and enigmatic - who will become the new object of their desires. And your very existence as a self-respecting man, will fuel her fantasy. Women such as this are very common today - they usually come from dysfunctional families. And how women construct their logic when it comes to using other people - it's mostly not even for material gain - it's all about facilitating the dramatic theatre of her *important* life. In short, it's rarely ever about you - but it is almost always about them. Why do they do this, one might ask? Because, this way, they can avoid any and all responsibility and self-control, and follow the senseless, brainless dopamine-rush-addict lifestyle without guilt. Women, for the most part, are the masters of objectifying others, especially men. They have very little care for your emotional state (or mine) when it comes to facilitating good and positive and elating emotions for themselves. You'd be surprised at the lengths they'd go to. Avoiding guilt, for women, is an internal process - they will shift objective truth into subjective beliefs - and then they will corrupt and mutilate these beliefs until it serves their agenda - which is comfort and guilt-free living. For men, this whole process is externalized. "He's so dreamy!" - ever heard of that phrase? Why is he dreamy and not handsome? Why is he dreamy and not intellectually stimulating? Because dreamy implies that I can fantasize about them, attach all kinds of impractical and, often untrue, virtuous traits to their persona. This is also why women oftentimes do not require any sort of "beat drop" in their relationships with the men they are with - they are not looking for the finish (as most men are) - they are looking for the buildup. The finish comes after - with the abandonment of the old… I realize that this is a very painful truth for men to swallow, and the red pill community (as a prime example) has been unable to truly figure out and define this phenomenon, mostly due to their own biases and insecurities. A lot of men struggle with dealing with these women. This archetype is all too common, I assure you - and I would even say that 1 out of 3 women has severe symptoms of this type of dysfunctional existence. In short, my friends, if you do not want to become a victim of this archetype - never allow a woman to keep pleasure from you. Erase her from your life, immediately. You gain nothing from engaging with her - and she gains everything, staging the set for her to go and give herself to another as you try to win her heart, desire her and compliment her. A woman who truly wants you will want you IMMEDIATELY.