When you want to parry a sword, you don't watch the blade in anxious anticipation - you watch the hand that moves it. Spiritual pursuit is the same - if you get stuck up on the dangers and challenges life throws at you, you will struggle to advance. You must teach yourself to see the hand that moves the events in your life, learn to know its secret intentions, the lessons they bring. Don't ask: "How is this happening to me?" Ask: "Why is this happening to me?"