What is the best way to get yourself out of a painful situation in life? It's not making yourself immune to fear - there will always be trouble. Neither is it about envisioning yourself as someone emotionally unbothered or radically independent. And it's not about becoming someone who can't possibly have their heart broken either, or their money stolen, or acquiring so much control that they no longer fear to lose anything at all. The best way to get yourself out of a difficult situation is to simply learn from it. To accept the lesson it is trying to impart. Many people are stuck battling the past, especially those who are obsessed with "self-empowerment", the ones trying to constantly imagine themselves into a person they are not. A young man gets cheated on by his girlfriend, she causes him great pain - and instead of addressing that pain, he's stuck - sometimes for decades - trying to become "unhurtable" because, in his narrow mind - that is the solution. Which is also just another word for "unlovable" or "unavailable". He requires what he thinks is self-empowerment because he has not moved on from his situation, he is stuck in the narratives of the past, so he seeks endless influence and strength and overwhelming power over the external and over others. And he doesn't even know what causes that anxious obsession because, somewhere down the line - he rejected the lesson the mirror of life showed him. He preferred to lie to himself instead. Why? Because his ego did not allow him. The universe does not want to torment you, you do all that on your own, and neither does it need to punish you - what it does want from you though is for you to become your genuine self. It wants you to humble yourself before the many lessons it gives you. And pain is a great teacher. If you can accept whatever happened, and start pondering the reasons why it happened, you will learn the lesson of its pain. You will self-reflect and analyze. And, believe me, you will come out a better and truly stronger person on the other side. And the pain will disappear. But the gift of the lesson will stay with you forever. And you will finally have inputted something new into the universal code. And it will no longer have a need to throw pain at you any longer. It's as simple as that. The moment you learn from the situation - the situation is no longer required, and self-empowerment and resistance are no longer needed. What takes its place is calm, collected confidence - and the physiognomy changes too.