The objective of life is to learn to belong to yourself. People belong to many things before they belong to themselves. Principalities, emotions, social pressures, anxieties, fears, expectations, projections, etc. You must learn to answer to yourself-and for yourself. An inner sense of responsibility for whatever happens in your life will forever change you. You will not practice true agency in life until you have crossed this threshold. Stop blaming others for your inner workings - they have no power over them. It is you who gives them power to determine what your inner workings are (or should be). Because you yourself are afraid of the work that comes with determining your own destiny and fate. YOU are responsible sounds like an attack. You are RESPONSIBLE sounds like a victory. Pick your poison. No one will fix your mental state for you. No one will fix your emotional inconsistencies. No one will fix your discipline. No one will fix your lack of self-love. No one will fix your hesitancy. No one will fix your deficiencies in communication. Most importantly, no one will fix your sanity. No one will fix you. Because no one can. YOU--and only you--are responsible for your own well-being, health, advancement. Once you begin fixing yourself, you will find that random people will come into your life and provide help. Free of charge. But only if you begin.